Here are some common characteristics of Acoas ( adults who grew up in alcoholic or other dysfunctional homes)

1) We have feelings of low self-worth, and judge ourselves and others without mercy
2) We tend to isolate and feel uneasy around people we do not know, especially authority figures
3) We are approval seekers , and will do anything to get people to like us
4) We are intimidated by angry people, and personal criticism.
5) We habitually choose to have relationships with people we can pity or rescue
6) We live life as victims and are attracted to other victims in our love and friendship relationships.
7) We are either overly responsible or very irresponsible
8) We feel guilty when we stand up for ourselves or act assertively.
9) We deny, minimize, or repress our feelings.
10) We have dependent personalities and are terrified of rejection or abandonment.
11) Denial, isolation, control, and misplaced guilt lead us to feel helpless and hopless.
12) We have difficulty with intimate relationships. We feel insecure and lack trust in others. We don't have clearly defined boundaries, and become enmeshed with our partner's needs and feelings.