Step Work

Lyne · Lyne

I want to start step 3. I found step 1 & 2 very OK but now I need help and will find a sponser. For all the years I have been in program I have never had a sponser. I guess I have felt I could do it without one, but no more! So I appreciate the help all of you are giving me, Lyne

JamesCT · JamesCT

12: Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others who still suffer, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. This is the call to action. Once you are helped, you help. This is not a step you generally have to drag yourself through. Usu...

Lyne · Lyne

Today I feel really down and out and it is harder to hold onto the idea that my HP will take care of me. My A lives in denial. I'm not good at that. Blessing or a curse? But I do think one way to be successful in life is to be able to sit with my feelings. Some days are harder than others, Lyne

hotrod · hotrod

12TH STEPHAVING HAD A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING AS A RESULT OF THESE STEPS, WE TRIED TO CARRY THIS MESSAGE TO OTHERS AND TO PRACTICE THESE PRINCIPLES IN ALL OUR AFFARIS.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 166SLOWLY AS I BEGAN TO RECOVER, I REALIZED WHAT A WONDERFUL GIFT THE AL ANON PROGRAM WAS. IT GAVE ME AN UNDERSTAND...

Lyne · Lyne

The last few days I feel almost in shock that I have accepted my A's behavior which has been especially bad the last 7 yrs. A couple wks ago, when she drank and drove, that somehow was a bottom for me. That behavior is unacceptable. She is allowed to destroy herself but no one else. What if she killed so...

schooner · schooner

Hi Guys/Gals Just wanted some ideas how you bring your sponsee' into STEP 3 I usually read with them and tell him to write on it. What feelings/thinks, etc,etc. Thanks GOD BLESS YOU ALL Schooner : -)

Lyne · Lyne

I do believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity, health, etc. It's going to be God and you folks at alanon. I seem to need constant reminders that I cannot change my A, that I can ony change myself, that I do not have to suffer, and there will be peace in the future. Today is not good but to...

Lyne · Lyne

For about the last 3 yrs I now realize I have joined her insanity by trying to track her people and places and behaviors. I accept I can't stop or control her. I also don't think I like her very much and feel very cold. I am blaming her for ruining our marriage, but I think I'm supposed to blame the disease...

Lyne · Lyne

So I caught my A spouse in yet another lie, this time about our medical ins., and when I got off the phone with the med co my heart was racing. Another lie. But then I reminded myself that she is not changing, only I can change. My goal is not to accuse her of anything. Just calmly tell her what I found out t...

JC · JC

I need the contact from others that understand...I need to work the steps. You know step one is not the hard step...it is easy to see I need help....I have tried with all my will power to fix everything....guess what, it did not work...and I am crazier for trying. I have remarried...things change but...

JamesCT · JamesCT

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out. This step is another one of those who have the word God in it which can trip people up. Again, substitute Higher Power f...

hotrod · hotrod

Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 11SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDIATATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, AS I UNDERSTOOD HIM PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUTCOURAGE...

BOUNDnoMORE · BOUNDnoMORE

1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I have spent my entire life trying to control alcoholics, taking it personal, believing that there was something wrong with me. Not believing that it was them that ha...

coniolga · coniolga

1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I've been clean & sober in AA for 34 years. I still have problems with co-dependence issues. I was left alone on the streets when I was 13 years old & had some bad...

Lyne · Lyne

I am powerless over my spouse and her drinking, gambling, lying, and eating.

JamesCT · JamesCT

10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This is the glue step. This cements your new path. You've changed and you're going to stay changed. This step also commits you to going through the steps as needed. You continue to take personal inventory. That...

hotrod · hotrod

IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL STEP 10CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY AND WHEN I WAS WRONG PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 288DO NOT SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, SAID AN ANCIENT PATRIARCH,ONLY CEASE TO CHERISH OPINIONS. THIS IS A PART OF TH...

gettinsober · gettinsober

I've been doing this for a while. Staying sober is not easy but you HAVE TO WORK THE STEPS! I try to work the steps from beginning to end and then take a short break and start all over! I read the big book from end to end and what really helps me is listening to the Audiobook of Alcoholics Anonymous while I read...

JamesCT · JamesCT

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. How much does it mean for you to say that you're sorry? How much would it mean to you if someone who wronged you told you they were sorry? Apologize and make amends if you can. But think about what you...

hotrod · hotrod

IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL__________________ STEP 9MADE DIRECT AMENDS TO SUCH PEOPLE, WHENEVER POSSIBLE EXCEPT WHEN DO TO SO WOULD INJURE THEM OR OTHERS COUrAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 356IN A MEETING I HEARD SOMEONE SAY I MADE A LIST OF THOSE I HAD HARME...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	step 3 (Preview) I want to start step 3. I found step 1 & 2 very OK but now I need help and will find a sponser. For all the years I have been in program I have never had a sponser. I guess I have felt I could do it without one, but no more! So I appreciate the help all of you are giving me, Lyne	Lyne	1	828	Mar 28, 2013 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 12 (Preview) 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others who still suffer, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. This is the call to action. Once you are helped, you help. This is not a step you generally have to drag yourself through. Usu...	JamesCT	1	962	Jul 25, 2013 by billyhughbilly
	step 2 (Preview) Today I feel really down and out and it is harder to hold onto the idea that my HP will take care of me. My A lives in denial. I'm not good at that. Blessing or a curse? But I do think one way to be successful in life is to be able to sit with my feelings. Some days are harder than others, Lyne	Lyne	1	825	Mar 22, 2013 by hotrod
	STEP 12 ALANON (Preview) *12TH STEP*HAVING HAD A SPIRITUAL AWAKENING AS A RESULT OF THESE STEPS, WE TRIED TO CARRY THIS MESSAGE TO OTHERS AND TO PRACTICE THESE PRINCIPLES IN ALL OUR AFFARIS.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 166SLOWLY AS I BEGAN TO RECOVER, I REALIZED WHAT A WONDERFUL GIFT THE AL ANON PROGRAM WAS. IT GAVE ME AN UNDERSTAND...	hotrod	2	957	Mar 28, 2013 by hotrod
	step 2 (Preview) The last few days I feel almost in shock that I have accepted my A's behavior which has been especially bad the last 7 yrs. A couple wks ago, when she drank and drove, that somehow was a bottom for me. That behavior is unacceptable. She is allowed to destroy herself but no one else. What if she killed so...	Lyne	0	657	Mar 21, 2013 by Lyne
	What's the best way to start a sponsee on step 3 (Preview) Hi Guys/Gals Just wanted some ideas how you bring your sponsee' into STEP 3 I usually read with them and tell him to write on it. What feelings/thinks, etc,etc. Thanks GOD BLESS YOU ALL Schooner : -)	schooner	2	1458	Mar 22, 2013 by schooner
	step 2 (Preview) I do believe a power greater than myself can restore me to sanity, health, etc. It's going to be God and you folks at alanon. I seem to need constant reminders that I cannot change my A, that I can ony change myself, that I do not have to suffer, and there will be peace in the future. Today is not good but to...	Lyne	2	905	Jun 12, 2014 by Luckyvic
	powerless (Preview) For about the last 3 yrs I now realize I have joined her insanity by trying to track her people and places and behaviors. I accept I can't stop or control her. I also don't think I like her very much and feel very cold. I am blaming her for ruining our marriage, but I think I'm supposed to blame the disease...	Lyne	1	792	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	Practice step 1 (Preview) So I caught my A spouse in yet another lie, this time about our medical ins., and when I got off the phone with the med co my heart was racing. Another lie. But then I reminded myself that she is not changing, only I can change. My goal is not to accuse her of anything. Just calmly tell her what I found out t...	Lyne	0	795	Mar 13, 2013 by Lyne
	Step 1 I am powerless over others..my life is unmanagable. I have been gone from alnon for a while..I had to come back (Preview) I need the contact from others that understand...I need to work the steps. You know step one is not the hard step...it is easy to see I need help....I have tried with all my will power to fix everything....guess what, it did not work...and I am crazier for trying. I have remarried...things change but...	JC	7	1469	Apr 6, 2013 by Lyne
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 11 (Preview) 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understand God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry it out. This step is another one of those who have the word God in it which can trip people up. Again, substitute Higher Power f...	JamesCT	1	888	Mar 13, 2013 by Davie
	STEP 11 ALANON (Preview) Alanon 12 Steps and 12 Traditions page 1 IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 11*SOUGHT THROUGH PRAYER AND MEDIATATION TO IMPROVE MY CONSCIOUS CONTACT WITH GOD, AS I UNDERSTOOD HIM PRAYING ONLY FOR KNOWLEDGE OF HIS WILL AND THE POWER TO CARRY IT OUTCOURAGE...	hotrod	4	1121	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	STEP ONE ACA (Preview) 1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I have spent my entire life trying to control alcoholics, taking it personal, believing that there was something wrong with me. Not believing that it was them that ha...	BOUNDnoMORE	3	1100	Mar 29, 2013 by lin34
	Step 1 ACA (Preview) 1: We admitted we were powerless over the effects of alcoholism or other family dysfunction, that our lives had become unmanageable. I've been clean & sober in AA for 34 years. I still have problems with co-dependence issues. I was left alone on the streets when I was 13 years old & had some bad...	coniolga	6	1665	Mar 29, 2013 by Davie
	step 1 (Preview) I am powerless over my spouse and her drinking, gambling, lying, and eating.	Lyne	15	1364	May 6, 2013 by KayCee
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 10 (Preview) 10. Continued to take personal inventory and, when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. This is the glue step. This cements your new path. You've changed and you're going to stay changed. This step also commits you to going through the steps as needed. You continue to take personal inventory. That...	JamesCT	0	714	Feb 26, 2013 by JamesCT
	STEP 10 ALANON (Preview) IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL *STEP 10*CONTINUED TO TAKE PERSONAL INVENTORY AND WHEN I WAS WRONG PROMPTLY ADMITTED IT.COURAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 288DO NOT SEARCH FOR THE TRUTH, SAID AN ANCIENT PATRIARCH,ONLY CEASE TO CHERISH OPINIONS. THIS IS A PART OF TH...	hotrod	7	3748	Mar 18, 2013 by hotrod
	Listen to The Big Book (Preview) I've been doing this for a while. Staying sober is not easy but you HAVE TO WORK THE STEPS! I try to work the steps from beginning to end and then take a short break and start all over! I read the big book from end to end and what really helps me is listening to the Audiobook of Alcoholics Anonymous while I read...	gettinsober	1	683	Feb 14, 2013 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics: Step 9 (Preview) 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. How much does it mean for you to say that you're sorry? How much would it mean to you if someone who wronged you told you they were sorry? Apologize and make amends if you can. But think about what you...	JamesCT	1	739	Feb 12, 2013 by DavidG
	STEP 9 ALANON (Preview) IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUAL__________________ STEP 9MADE DIRECT AMENDS TO SUCH PEOPLE, WHENEVER POSSIBLE EXCEPT WHEN DO TO SO WOULD INJURE THEM OR OTHERS *COUrAGE TO CHANGE PAGE 356*IN A MEETING I HEARD SOMEONE SAY I MADE A LIST OF THOSE I HAD HARME...	hotrod	1	960	Feb 9, 2013 by f2fmember
«First < 1 … 50 51 52 53 54 … 91 > Last» \| Page of 91 sorted by

Learn how the 12 Steps work. Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! We discuss each of the Twelve Steps In the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.