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hotrod · hotrod

Step 10 Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Step 10 suggests an honest appraisal of ourselves on a daily basis. This step reminds us that we are human and are likely to make mistakes. In taking a daily inventory of our actions and behavior, we are able to fr...

terri216 · terri216

Hello all, I have never posted on line. I attended Alanon meetings for several years in the past when my younger son, then a teen was addicted to Xanax, alcohol, cocaine, and marijuana.I found the meetings tremendously helpful and a life saver. For the past nearly 3 years I have been involved with a 48 y...

2muchofamuchness · 2muchofamuchness

Dear Al-anon angels, I am a long-time member of this incredible program, but find myself at loose ends tonight. Glad I found y'all. Husband 10 years clean. First couple of years were very tough and I learned a LOT. Seems like a dry drunk relapse is going on and I find myself sucked back into the ins...

hotrod · hotrod

STEP 9 ALANONReply Quote More Step 9Made Direct Amends to Such People Wherever Possible EXCEPT When to do so Would Injure Them or Others. Courage to Change Page 356 In a meeting I heard someone say of Step 8 and Step9 : I have made a list of those I have harmed and I put myself at the top of the lis...

JamesCT · JamesCT

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. We need to make things right. If we create a problem we need to try to fix it. But we shouldn't create new problems in the process of fixing old ones. The Hippocratic Oath says:I will prescribe regime...

BethNan · BethNan

My boyfriend of two years now was in recovery, sober for four years, when we met. Six months after we started dating, he started drinking again. It's escalated in the past year and a half to the point where he starts drinking beer as soon as soon as he gets up on the weekends, and drinks all day. He never...

JamesCT · JamesCT

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. One of the most difficult parts of doing this step is that there are people who you have harmed who have also harmed you. You don't want to make amends to them because you "know" you're never getting amend...

hotrod · hotrod

Step eightMade a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.Step eight gives us the opportunity to raise our awareness of our past behaviors. Our application of the previous steps has shown us that we have indeed harmed others by our words and actions. Just as im...

MJ1112 · MJ1112

It's complicated - isn't it always? I was was living a good life, living alone. Circumstances changed and i invited family members to move in. I DID THIS. My my life is now very complicated and I am very unhappy. My older son said my younger son's behaviors were because he was a dry drunk. I'm beginni...

JamesCT · JamesCT

7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. Let's parse this brief sentence. Humbly -- We become so relentlessly self-reliant that we get very good at making things happen and we begin to believe we can handle anything. We develop hubris and contort our reasoning or logic to keep from admitting t...

Haymond9007 · Haymond9007

Hello! First, I want to apologize if I'm on the incorrect forum today. I'm new to this forum and I'm wanting to share my story and seek advice. I've been in and out of Alanon activity for about two years. I have read a lot of material and been to meetings. I have recently felt stronger about myself and not le...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 7Humbly ask Him to remove our shortcomings--- From Alanon : Reaching for Personal FreedomWhen we humbly ask God to remove our shortcomings, we admit that our power is limited. Although we may achieve some changes on our own, we come to realize that genuine transformation is only possible t...

JamesCT · JamesCT

6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. In order for the trapeze artist to get to the other trapeze, he must let go of the one he's holding onto. He cannot hang onto both. So too must we be ready to let go of our behaviors that served us to a degree but limit us from going beyon...

hotrod · hotrod

Step six Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of characterReaching or Personal FreedomBeing entirely ready for God to work in my life was a very scary and I hesitated a long time before taking this step. I like the idea that God would remove my character defects I and I wouldnt have t...

JamesCT · JamesCT

5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.This morning, I woke up with this feeling I didn't know how to deal with and so I just decided to myself I'd hide it to myself and never talk about it. from the song "I Think I Love You" written by Tony Rome...

hotrod · hotrod

Alanon Book: Reaching for Personal Freedom Step FiveAdmitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.The idea of admitting our wrongs to God, to ourselves and to someone else has deterred many from completing step five. However, when we take the risk of e...

JamesCT · JamesCT

4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Please do this step. I have seen people procrastinate on this step, make excuses, skip, or even quit working the steps over it. I myself took a long time to do this step myself because I was afraid I'd start beating myself up and would never s...

hotrod · hotrod

Step FourMade a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselvesStep four helps us to find the truth about ourselves. If we blame others for our own shortcomings, we continue to live as victims. But if we look at our own behavior, perceptions and attitudes with genuine honesty, we realize much of...

JamesCT · JamesCT

3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. This is where you become an action hero. This is where you take action. You're making a choice here. You know you need to make a change. You know you need help making it. Here is where you ask for help. If God is a...

hotrod · hotrod

Step Three Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.FROM ALANON READER; "REACHING FOR PERSONAL FREEDOM"Stepping out of the way to let the God of our understanding work in our lives is quite often a difficult undertaking. We hold on to our b...

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	STEP 10 ALANON (Preview) *Step 10* Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Step 10 suggests an honest appraisal of ourselves on a daily basis. This step reminds us that we are human and are likely to make mistakes. In taking a daily inventory of our actions and behavior, we are able to fr...	hotrod	9	5978	Dec 7, 2014 by hotrod
	This is the start of healing I hope... (Preview) Hello all, I have never posted on line. I attended Alanon meetings for several years in the past when my younger son, then a teen was addicted to Xanax, alcohol, cocaine, and marijuana.I found the meetings tremendously helpful and a life saver. For the past nearly 3 years I have been involved with a 48 y...	terri216	1	1205	Jul 2, 2014 by hotrod
	Oh Lordy, there's a dry drunk in the house and it ain't pretty! (Preview) Dear Al-anon angels, I am a long-time member of this incredible program, but find myself at loose ends tonight. Glad I found y'all. Husband 10 years clean. First couple of years were very tough and I learned a LOT. Seems like a dry drunk relapse is going on and I find myself sucked back into the ins...	2muchofamuchness	1	1347	Jun 26, 2014 by hotrod
	ALANON STEP 9 (Preview) STEP 9 ALANONReply Quote More Step 9Made Direct Amends to Such People Wherever Possible EXCEPT When to do so Would Injure Them or Others. Courage to Change Page 356 In a meeting I heard someone say of Step 8 and Step9 : I have made a list of those I have harmed and I put myself at the top of the lis...	hotrod	0	3791	Jun 24, 2014 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 9 (Preview) 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. We need to make things right. If we create a problem we need to try to fix it. But we shouldn't create new problems in the process of fixing old ones. The Hippocratic Oath says:I will prescribe regime...	JamesCT	2	1429	Dec 8, 2014 by JamesCT
	I have been contemplating a meeting, but... (Preview) My boyfriend of two years now was in recovery, sober for four years, when we met. Six months after we started dating, he started drinking again. It's escalated in the past year and a half to the point where he starts drinking beer as soon as soon as he gets up on the weekends, and drinks all day. He never...	BethNan	1	1354	Jun 16, 2014 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 8 (Preview) 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. One of the most difficult parts of doing this step is that there are people who you have harmed who have also harmed you. You don't want to make amends to them because you "know" you're never getting amend...	JamesCT	6	1630	Nov 24, 2014 by JamesCT
	ALANON STEP 8 (Preview) Step eightMade a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.Step eight gives us the opportunity to raise our awareness of our past behaviors. Our application of the previous steps has shown us that we have indeed harmed others by our words and actions. Just as im...	hotrod	2	2819	Oct 13, 2014 by hotrod
	New here (Preview) It's complicated - isn't it always? I was was living a good life, living alone. Circumstances changed and i invited family members to move in. I DID THIS. My my life is now very complicated and I am very unhappy. My older son said my younger son's behaviors were because he was a dry drunk. I'm beginni...	MJ1112	5	1097	Jun 2, 2014 by MJ1112
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 7 (Preview) 7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. Let's parse this brief sentence. Humbly -- We become so relentlessly self-reliant that we get very good at making things happen and we begin to believe we can handle anything. We develop hubris and contort our reasoning or logic to keep from admitting t...	JamesCT	3	1324	Nov 10, 2014 by JamesCT
	New and need help!! (Preview) Hello! First, I want to apologize if I'm on the incorrect forum today. I'm new to this forum and I'm wanting to share my story and seek advice. I've been in and out of Alanon activity for about two years. I have read a lot of material and been to meetings. I have recently felt stronger about myself and not le...	Haymond9007	6	1390	May 29, 2014 by hotrod
	Alanon Step 7 (Preview) Step 7Humbly ask Him to remove our shortcomings--- From Alanon : Reaching for Personal FreedomWhen we humbly ask God to remove our shortcomings, we admit that our power is limited. Although we may achieve some changes on our own, we come to realize that genuine transformation is only possible t...	hotrod	9	8277	Apr 13, 2017 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 6 (Preview) 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. In order for the trapeze artist to get to the other trapeze, he must let go of the one he's holding onto. He cannot hang onto both. So too must we be ready to let go of our behaviors that served us to a degree but limit us from going beyon...	JamesCT	4	1104	Apr 13, 2015 by JamesCT
	ALANON STEP 6 (Preview) Step six *Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of characterReaching or Personal Freedom***Being entirely ready for God to work in my life was a very scary and I hesitated a long time before taking this step. I like the idea that God would remove my character defects I and I wouldnt have t...	hotrod	11	4943	Oct 5, 2014 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 5 (Preview) 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.This morning, I woke up with this feeling I didn't know how to deal with and so I just decided to myself I'd hide it to myself and never talk about it. from the song "I Think I Love You" written by Tony Rome...	JamesCT	4	1463	Apr 13, 2015 by countrygirl
	ALANON STEP 5 (Preview) Alanon Book: Reaching for Personal Freedom Step FiveAdmitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.The idea of admitting our wrongs to God, to ourselves and to someone else has deterred many from completing step five. However, when we take the risk of e...	hotrod	13	2998	Oct 4, 2014 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 4 (Preview) 4: Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Please do this step. I have seen people procrastinate on this step, make excuses, skip, or even quit working the steps over it. I myself took a long time to do this step myself because I was afraid I'd start beating myself up and would never s...	JamesCT	11	1502	Apr 13, 2015 by countrygirl
	Alanon Step 4 (Preview) **Step FourMade a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves**Step four helps us to find the truth about ourselves. If we blame others for our own shortcomings, we continue to live as victims. But if we look at our own behavior, perceptions and attitudes with genuine honesty, we realize much of...	hotrod	14	5620	Jul 31, 2014 by hotrod
	Adult Children of Alcoholics Step 3 (Preview) 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God. This is where you become an action hero. This is where you take action. You're making a choice here. You know you need to make a change. You know you need help making it. Here is where you ask for help. If God is a...	JamesCT	6	1215	Jan 23, 2015 by Kheirra
	ALANON STEP 3 (Preview) Step Three Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.FROM ALANON READER; "REACHING FOR PERSONAL FREEDOM"*Stepping out of the way to let the God of our understanding work in our lives is quite often a difficult undertaking. We hold on to our b...*	hotrod	18	11994	Jun 25, 2014 by hotrod
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